Category Archives: Family


Women like reruns too. No, not King of Queens, Two and a Half Men, or Seinfeld. They like our attempts at repeating or even topping a previous hot date. Hint guys: you actually have to take your girl on a hot date before you can try to repeat it.

Here’s what I did on Saturday: I spent several hours of the day shining up the carriage so that I could escort my queen in style. My pastor says that “if you want her to act like a queen, you better start treating her like one, Bubba!” Not only does that advice make sense but I find it to be true. Anyway, the previous night, I made some reservations at a high class restaurant and picked out the appropriate chic flick with which to woo my bride. Then I spent some significant time on the computer putting my creativity to good use by designing a few little cards expressing my love. She got the first of the cards early Saturday, giving her a general time frame of the night’s activities. Second only to the time of departure for her is what to wear. Beyond that, I kept the specifics a surprise, even driving in the direction of one of her favorite restaurants. If you want to show her some real value, set a meaningful course of events independent of her. My wife likes steak so I took her to Del Frisco’s Double Eagle Steakhouse. Also, I find that life has a way of distracting us from what’s truly important in a relationship (each other) with such things as politics currently for me or my driving technique for my wife so we agreed to set up some ground rules. No discussing politics, this blog, or my driving all night period. Oh, and I opened her doors for her. I don’t care how “independent” your women claims to be, don’t let her fool you, she will freakin’ explode on the inside if she’s not used to you doing this. So here’s the final tally:

Expensive? You bet. Was it worth it? Yes, there’s no 8 ounce piece of steak, no matter how tasty, worth $32.00 alone but the experience and how it made my wife feel is invaluable. I know what some of you are saying but hey, you spend that much on your cell phone bill every month . . . or the NFL ticket . . . or [insert own personal luxury item].

Don’t forget to compliment her either; tell her how beautiful she is, even if she looks like a Tonka Truck. Something attracted you to her, what was it? If you cant find it, maybe your the problem–stop being so shallow.

And the movie we saw: Fireproof. Awesome date movie, especially if you are considering marriage, already married, or on the verge of being unmarried. Check out the trailer below:

I had a great time, Baby–I love you!


Queen of Hearts

Tina and I were graciously invited to a party by a coworker of mine. The festivities began with a diverse group of 50 plus people. The fellowship was superb, the food yummy (chicken wings, mozzarella sticks, bruschetta, and jalapeño poppers), the DJ jammin’, the disco lights poppin’, and the dancin’ hot. Themed, “Queen of the Jungle,” after the nickname of the hostess (Queen), the party even boasted a Tarzan yell contest (and I tied for 1st––AhhhhhAhhhhhh!)

Yes, this party is definitely worth bragging about but even more brag-worthy (and blogworthy) is the hostess. Queen is truly the “hostess with the mostest.” There are some people who let life’s circumstances make them bitter and some who let life’s circumstances make them better. As someone who has been a paraplegic since being hit by a drunk driver in the 70’s, Queen is definitely the latter. She is the kind of person with an energetic personality that lights up the room when she enters. She is not idle or lazy, inspiring others by working three jobs despite her reliance on a wheelchair. Some would say that her paralysis is a disability but apparently, no one has ever told her. Her Christian walk is more of a strut, resonating in the hearts of those around her. She has scaled the mountains of life with grace and dignity yet is humble enough to share the fruits of victory with her vast array of friends (and I just happen to be lucky enough to be called one). While the party was intended to be a celebration of Queen’s birthday, the real gifts are not in what she received but in what she gives to those who are fortunate enough to know her.

We celebrate you, Queen!

Love and Marriage (oh, and Sex too)

Sunday’s message was the start of what’s sure to be one of my fav’s. Coming off a spellbinding and soul-finding series called The Gospel, where we saw over 900 people come to Christ and record attendance of over 4,500 people in the short life of our church, this week begins a series on what I believe to be one of the most important issues of the day concerning the proliferation of the life-changing gospel (talk about a run-on sentence). Visionary Love, Dream Sex, believe it or not, is about family. More specifically, it’s about the relationships that embody family like finding the right partner with which to start a family, dating, maintaining purity prior to marriage, nurturing your relationship, and how to be the best spouse you can be.

The deterioration of the family unit is a cause of many of today’s social issues. With divorce at an all time high, even in the church, you have fatherless homes like never before, increased pressure on single parent families, a rise in teenage pregnancy, more people finding fulfillment in illegal substances, sexual immorality that is off the chart, and a resulting stress on our social programs and subsequent effects on the economy. Personally, I’m a divorcee who’s been both a victim and offender of infidelity so I have seen some of this first hand. With courage and God’s grace, I am now a victor and that’s much better. Love, marriage, and where they intersect with sex are a big deal.

This series has a message for all stages of life and all but the youngest of ages. While other churches find speaking of sex to be taboo or tip-toe around it when they do, Elevation Church shoots straight; instead of running from the culture, they speak into it. And Pastor Steven Furtick has a brazen, take no prisoners style that allows him to deliver the message with a conviction that will grab hold of anyone who listens. I thank God for him and Elevation.

Listen to the message in its entirety right here:

Cool Pastor, Hot Church

Also, Elevation made the front page of the Charlotte Observer for the second time this year. Not for scandal or heresy, but for dominating the city of Charlotte with the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Praise God!

Grandparent’s Day

Happy Grandparents Day, Gram and Pap!

I just got off the phone with my grandma and grandpap. I always enjoy talking to them. They have five decades of experience that I do not. And so, I find their perspective interesting. In some respects, it’s a far different world than when they grew up. In others’, some things never change. While they know little about MySpace, Twitter, Google, cell phones, email, internet, etc., they know first hand of other current events like war, hard economic times, political history, and the importance of good ol’ Christian values. This may sound cliché but they have had as much influence on who I am and who I am becoming than almost anybody else (aside from my own parents, of course). I spent a lot of time with my grandparents growing up, going to church with them; attending Vacation Bible school; helping Pap in the yard or garage; eating Pop-Tarts, Lipton Cup-o-Soup, and Old Fashioned Ginger Snaps; (my favorite) getting a bag full of nickel candy at the local store; smoking my first . . . just kidding; my bother and I did play in a pile of manure one time but that’s another post altogether. Bottom line: they are a part of so many of my childhood memories. I guess you could say that some parts of them have been cut and pasted into my very soul. They are beautiful people who I am proud and privileged to share in their legacy. Today, I honor you Pap and Gram!

Precious Little One

All three of my nephews (Ryan, Ben, and Jacob) are special each in his own way. The youngest, Jacob, who will turn five in December has “batted a thousand” despite some malicious curve balls thrown his way.

At 2 1/2, he was diagnosed with diabetes and has since been the target of six or more finger sticks and a minimum of four needle sticks per day. At the tender age of 4 years old, he gets enough sticks to make Keith Richards look like an amateur; not out of addiction and certainly not out of choice but by necessity. On top of that, he has had to forfeit the typical adolescent diet of cakes and candy for a diet more favorable to his health. By virtue of his fate, Jacob makes greater sacrifices than some of us will ever have to endure.

On Monday afternoon, as if his lot in life wasn’t already a bummer enough, Jacob experienced a seizure. After extensive diagnostic testing including an EEG, a diagnosis of epilepsy was confirmed. While further testing is being planned, an oral medication has been added to his existing insulin regimen.

Despite the circumstances, Jacob has been a real trooper through his plight. He is proof that spirit is much harder to break than body. These adult-sized afflictions may have attempted to take the life out of the boy but he has refused to let them take the boy out of his life. With two older, rambunctious brothers, Jacob has no time to give these ailments any kind of foothold. He is all boy and when life wants to play hardball, this little guy is going to hit it out of the park.

That being said, no child and no family should have to go through such an ordeal. This kind of adversity would be difficult no matter how tough and resilient. And it’s been no cakewalk for Jacob and his family either. Barring any major medical advances or a supernatural healing, both of these are lifelong diseases that require enormous courage and significant changes to lifestyle. Besides how it affects Jacob, it has resulted in tremendous pressure on the entire family. Things as simple as finding a baby sitter skilled enough to provide for Jacob’s complex medical condition is a challenge. And Jacob’s mother has had to sacrifice her job for the care of her son. Plain and simple, this sucks!

Please pray for Jacob: for normal blood sugar levels, no seizures, the discipline to handle the altered lifestyle, the strength to handle a crisis, and ultimately for his complete healing. Also pray for Rabs (pronounced with short a) and Suzie, Jacob’s dad and mom: for wisdom and patience in providing for Jacob’s needs, financial security, and the strength and peace to deal with it all. And finally, pray for Ryan and Ben: for their health and that they are continually supportive in their brother’s care.

Thanks for letting me boast about my family!

Rabs and family, we love you guys!

This is Sweet

No matter your party affiliation, this is sure to bring a smile to your face. This is Sarah Palin’s youngest daughter, Piper, grooming the hair of Sarah’s 4-month old son, Trig, on national tv during mom’s address to the RNC. This is adorable . . .

Happy Birthday Megan!

My little girl is growing up . . .

Her Eleventeenth (that’s 11 going on teenager) Birthday Party featuring Hawaiian luau theme, hamburgers, fruit kabobs, cookie cake, hula hoop match, water guns, water balloons, limbo contest, crafts, piñata, dance competition, five non-stop screaming girls, sleepover: $200.

Memories: Priceless

Whew! This old dad’s wore out!